December 2009


Welcome to the December edition of the Carnival of Feminist Parenting! There are over thirty posts and articles featured this month and it seems like a lot, but I promise they are absolutely all worth reading. :D There haven’t been many submissions from other people this month so I’ll ask again – pretty please with a cherry on top, don’t forget to submit the feminist parenting related posts and articles you find over the coming month. With that said, on with the carnival!

Reproductive Freedom

Education

Children’s Rights and Mothers’ Rights

  • Renegade Parent has a post titled What? taking apart an article by a person complaining about children on aeroplanes, and talking about the wider ideas behind children’s rights.
  • Lynn Harris writes about how everybody hates mommy, discussing society’s apparent hatred of children and parents, and especially of mothers.

Birth

  • Spilt Milk had a comment from the owner/creator of ‘Pretty Pushers’ and writes back to her explaining to her exactly how and why her product is problematic.
  • Jill has a post about Criticizing Birth, talking about some of the reactions to the recent ‘internet live birth’ and asking that people lay off the judgement when it comes to other women’s births.
  • Kenzie reminds us not to forget who actually delivers the baby, following a news report about a “super fast unintended homebirth” which talks about the two men who ‘delivered the baby’ with no mention of the mother.

News and Media

  • Katy Wingrove writes about her trip to Thailand, discussing how “the media pervades”, after seeing children in a small village wearing Disney princess and Hello Kitty clothing.
  • Morra Aarons Mele has a post up about the case of Alexis Hutchinson, “the 21 year old Army Specialist who did not show up for her deployment to Afghanistan because she had no one to care for her 10 month old baby”.

Books

  • Viv Groskop has an article in the Guardian about feminist books for five-year-olds, talking about her ‘stereotyping intervention’ and reviewing some children’s books with verdicts from her son and daughter.

Race

  • Cheryl Lynn writes A Girl Like Me, inspired by the video of the same name. She explores her own childhood fascination with white dolls despite being a child of colour, and the implications of this.

Gender Stereotyping

  • May Carolan writes about the Emergency Learning Emergency, discussing the ELC’s insistence on gender stereotyping and ‘pinkification’ of toys, and calling for a boycott.
  • Ariane has a post asking why relationships don’t matter for boys, inspired by a recent article about bullying, and discusses the different ways boys and girls are taught to deal with their problems.
  • Jennifer Holladay has a post titled Gender in the Fast Lane where she talks about Burger King’s gender stereotyping with the toys included in their children’s meals.

Body Image and Sexualisation

  • PBS Parents has an article about Raising a Girl With a Positive Body Image, giving some ideas for instilling positive body image in girls and teaching them to challenge what the media is telling them they should look like.

Disability

  • Renee Martin writes about how Disableism Impacts Families, sharing her personal experience of disableism and how that has an affect on her ability to mother her sons.

Feminist Parenting

  • An ‘Other’ Mother asks What is feminist parenting?, an excerpt from a paper she’s writing, resulting in “a list of characteristics, values, and behaviors found in families that practice feminist parenting.”
  • Blue Milk shows her readers some photographs of a few modifications she made to her baby’s Little Mermaid play mat, with some ideas from her daughter.
  • And finally, Craphead (yes, that’s really her screen name!) has a post titled None of your beeswax, including a list of questions one should never, ever ask a mother.

That concludes this edition of the Carnival of Feminist Parenting – I really hope you enjoyed it! Please don’t forget to submit your own posts, or those you’ve loved by others, using our carnival submission form or by sending the link in a Twitter reply to @m4wl.

The next edition will be on Sunday 17th January 2010, and the submission deadline for that edition will be Sunday 10th January. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our carnival home page.

The idea of “bingo” cards is because so often people come out with insults or ignorant comments that they think are new, or insightful, but in fact have been said so many times before they’re almost boring.

A long while ago, I made a “breastfeeding bingo” card. It was originally intended simply as a handout at a breastfeeding support group I was jointly running at the time, but it became quite popular and even got turned into a postcard by Lisa at Lactivist.

Lauredhel at Hoyden about Town designed an excellent bingo card for conversations about breastfeeding in public.

But neither of these cards really covered the area of full-term breastfeeding. Or, child-led weaning, or normal-term breastfeeding. (Please, not “extended” breastfeeding; this implies there is a “right” cut off point and that nursing beyond this is somehow unnatural; “extending” what is normal. For more on “cut off points” see here.) Although this bingo card applies mainly to conversations around full-term breastfeeding, if you nurse longer than what is considered the cultural norm where you are, you’ll probably hear quite a few of these anyway.

[Please also note I am not, in designing this bingo card, getting at you in any way if you didn't breastfeed full-term, or if you didn't breastfeed at all.]

So, without further ado, I present full-term breastfeeding bingo. Can you get a full house?

Full term breastfeeding BINGO!

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