Orion went out with his dad today, as he does most Saturdays. Apparently during their day out they went to get a new car seat. When they opened the box, they found it was pink. They’d ordered a silver one, so went back to exchange it. No problem with that, right?
Except this evening, Orion has been striding around declaring that pink is “rubbish-dubbish” and it’s “a girl’s colour” and that they “gave daddy the wrong one, they gave him a girl’s car seat” and on and on and flippin’ ON about how horrible pink is and how it’s only for girls.
I cannot even begin to express my rage.
Three and a half years of carefully trying to raise an intelligent, non-sexist young man, and one afternoon with his father undoes so much of my hard work.
I have spent the evening pointing out that George (a cuddly toy of his, from the 80′s show Rainbow) is a boy and he is pink, so pink can’t possibly only be a girl’s colour. And how Orion has his pink skull-and-crossbones pyjamas and he’s a boy, so it must be a boy’s colour too.
GodDAMN it. It’s just a colour! Why is it so important to his father to turn him against a damn colour? Is he doing it deliberately to annoy me? Is he perhaps insecure in his own masculinity, and so forced to turn my son against an innocent colour of the light spectrum to make himself feel better?
Orion is three and a half. He doesn’t even know yet that his biological sex is supposed to determine his behaviour and attire and every damn thing about his personality. I’d rather raise him to do the things he wants to, rather than the things that are prescribed to him by sexist societal conditioning.
I’m going to do my best to undo the damage and approach his father about this in a non-confrontational and polite manner. But at the moment, I’m bloody seething.
February 8, 2009 at 6:34 am
Oh Anji that truely is crappy.
I do not get this pink phenomenon. Bertie’s favourite colour at the moment is actually pink (I know this because he asks me to look for pink machines on google images for him – pink car! pink truck! pink mixer! pink digger! and so on – and his favourite Balamory character is Archie). It’s a nice bright colour – why has it been gendered exclusively female?
And why is that *such* a huge problem for some men anyway?
Good luck Anji I hope you manage to get it across to Orion’s Dad without a screaming argument (which must be very tempting).
February 9, 2009 at 12:14 am
Errghhh how incredibly frustrating. I am glad my husband is cool with any colour. In fact he has a huge range of shirts and ties in colours such as pink, lilac, lemon and apricot. My 11 yr old son likes pink too, he has pink shoelaces amongst other things. My 2yr old daughter seems to prefer pink but I make a point of getting her clothing etc in a range of colours. It is hard though as most of it is pink and I have no choice…
February 9, 2009 at 5:23 am
Oy. Why does heteronorm etc society make such a fetish out of a bloody -color-?
And you know, ironically enough, it used to be the other way around (blue for girls, pink for boys, on account of it was a “stronger” color. really).
March 1, 2009 at 6:30 pm
Reading that makes me think single parenting is the way forward.
March 1, 2009 at 6:36 pm
Yikes. If it were me, there’d be screaming!
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